Midlife is the lowest point for happiness
Happiness follows a U-shaped curve across the lifespan, with midlife representing the lowest point, after which wellbeing tends to improve as people age.
Snapshot · Huberman Lab
How to Improve Your Memory & Cognitive Function at Any Age | Dr. Alan Castel
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Jul 13, 2026
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SuperAgers & Athletes; Regret, Balance & Being Driven
At 1:04:48 · chapter starts 57:03
The two spend considerable time examining what superagers and elite older athletes actually have in common, and the list is more behavioural than biochemical: they sit up straight, they move spontaneously rather than when scheduled, they breathe through their noses, they don't take escalators when stairs exist. Huberman notes choreographer Twyla Tharp — in her 80s, deadlifting twice her body weight, working out at 5 AM — as an archetype. Castel introduces the counterintuitive happiness curve: midlife is statistically the unhappiest period, not youth. The most striking story comes from Castel's interview with John Wooden, the legendary UCLA basketball coach who, in his 90s, distilled life wisdom to two words — love and balance — and then fractured his collarbone and wrist in a night fall, chose not to press his Life Alert device out of pride, and waited until morning. The irony perfectly illustrates how psychological barriers can override even the best physical preparations and the wisest advice.
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John Wooden on Love and Balance — and the Pride That Broke His Wrist
John Wooden — coached by Castel in his 90s — said the two most important words in English are love and balance. Then he fell in the middle of the night, broke his collarbone and wrist, had a Life Alert button around his neck, and refused to press it. Pride defeated both lessons at once.
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