A woman burying her estranged father in Cameroon gives away the hiking boots she bought the year they stopped speaking — so they could carry him home instead.
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Five storytellers share wildly different tales — a professor's naked weight-loss photos accidentally projected at a work presentation[1]— Harold Cox"Harold Cox's plan to document his weight loss with time-lapse nude photos seemed brilliant — until the AV guy accidentally projected them d…"01:04, a Chinese pharmacy student who wins a TV talent contest with a tearful on-air marriage proposal[2]— Di Cai"Three months before leaving China for a biochemistry PhD, Di Cai entered a live English talent competition on Tianjin TV — her 'last chance…"06:52, a young woman caring for her grieving Peruvian grandfather during COVID who discovers her own self-loathing[3]— Mercedes Hesselroth"Mercedes Hesselroth flew to Texas for her grandfather's 90th birthday and ended up trapped there for six weeks as the pandemic grounded all…"16:55, two college frenemies who become best friends through an epic amateur tennis match[4]— Tim Lopez"Tim Lopez and his college frenemy Evan couldn't agree on anything. They were garrulous, emotionally volatile, and each convinced the other …"26:34, and an artist who buries her estranged father in Cameroon by sending her beloved hiking boots in her place[5]— Akwi Nji"Akwi Nji's father died of cancer in 2021 after more than 20 years of silence between them. She scrambled for emergency visas and flights to…"34:19. Host Chloe Salmon leaves the thematic interpretation to listeners, offering "reckonings and self-image" as her own top contenders.
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Five storytellers share tales united by a theme listeners get to choose. Host Chloe Salmon presents stories about a humiliating work presentation, a Chinese TV talent competition, a grandfather-granddaughter bond during COVID, a legendary amateur tennis match, and a daughter burying her estranged father in Cameroon.
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Chloe Salmon opens The Moth Radio Hour with an unusual invitation. She loves crafting themes for her episodes, she admits, but this time she's stepping back and handing the interpretive work to the listener. Five stories are coming — all real, all personal — and the only job the audience has is to find the thread. She teases the offer of sending in a theme at the end, creating a meta-game of participation that runs through the entire hour.
Harold Cox's plan was genius, in theory. He would photograph himself naked from four angles every morning — a rotisserie of self-documentation — to track his weight loss in glorious, spinning time-lapse. He endured horrible green smoothies with grapefruit peel and a stationary bike that, as he put it, 'goes nowhere fast.' Then came Chicago. A work presentation. An AV technician. A flash drive mix-up. Suddenly, Harold's nude progress photos — arms stretched, legs stretched — were cycling on a massive screen in front of a live audience. A woman walked in, screamed, and walked back out. Harold yanked every cable from the wall to stop what he now immortally calls 'the rotisserie of shame.'[1]— Harold Cox"Harold Cox's plan to document his weight loss with time-lapse nude photos seemed brilliant — until the AV guy accidentally projected them d…"01:04 He has never returned to Chicago. His closing insight — that freedom is letting go of your blunders — earns the best kind of laugh: the one that comes from recognition.
Chloe briefly paints a portrait of Harold Cox: Texas-born professor, Massachusetts resident, connoisseur of 'simple and goofy' life events. She shares his LOL response to whether he's tried fitness photography again ('I will never ever do this again') and directs listeners to themoth.org for a fully clothed photo. She then checks in on the audience's theme-finding progress with two more stories promised: a granddaughter and her grandfather, and a heated tennis doubles match.
Di Cai grew up performing for anyone who would watch — narrating weather reports to her family as a five-year-old, captivating nap-time audiences at daycare. By the time she was 21, she was weeks away from leaving China for a PhD program in Dallas, Texas, and convinced her performing days were over. Then she spotted competition posters. Tianjin TV — the fourth-largest network in China — was holding an English talent showcase. Di Cai applied, battled through Shakespeare readings, group debates, and sketch comedy, and made it to the 12-person final.[1]— Di Cai"Three months before leaving China for a biochemistry PhD, Di Cai entered a live English talent competition on Tianjin TV — her 'last chance…"06:52 When her improv topic came up — make a marriage proposal to a random audience member — she dropped to one knee, became Monica from Friends, and started crying. The audience member teared up and said yes. The crowd stood. She won. The producer offered her a hosting role on a new bilingual show, and Di Cai spent a summer eating meals in a van and learning that television is anything but glamorous. At summer's end, she turned down the full-time offer, flew to Dallas, and became Doctor D. 'I did not become the Oprah of China,' she says. 'But I did get people to call me doctor d for the rest of my life.'
Jay Allison's production credit for Atlantic Public Media in Woods Hole, Massachusetts airs at the midpoint of the hour. Chloe Salmon returns immediately after to reset the theme challenge for listeners who are two stories in, reassuring them there are more stories ahead and rooting for their thematic conclusions.
Mercedes Hesselroth describes herself as chronically shy, reserved, and possessed of a self-esteem so low that her mother gave her a bookmark at age seven with '10 ways to develop self-esteem.' She chased gold stars and external validation her whole life — the one exception being her grandfather, her Tata, who never needed her to prove anything. When her grandmother, La Mama, died unexpectedly in 2019 after 72 years of marriage,[1]— Mercedes Hesselroth"Tata married 72 years: Mercedes Hesselroth's grandparents had been together for 72 years before her grandmother's unexpected death in 2019."18:25 the family rallied. Her Tata, patriotic and proud, resisted coming to America but eventually relented. On March 12, 2020, Mercedes boarded a plane to celebrate his 90th birthday — and the world shut down around her. Her one-week trip became six weeks as primary caregiver and companion during COVID lockdown, whispering affirmations in her Tata's ear that he, like her, refused to believe. The crisis point comes when she fires back at his deflection — 'well, if you're a fish, I'm a cow' — only to have to repeat it louder and louder due to his failing hearing aids, feeling the self-insult sink deeper each time. Her mother's blunt response to her tearful phone call — 'well, now you know how I feel' — cracks the mirror open. She finally sees that the love she was fighting to give her grandfather was exactly the love others had always been fighting to give her.
Chloe Salmon offers a quick bio of Mercedes Hesselroth — Peruvian American writer, New York based, storytelling workshop alum with the nonprofit I'll Go First — and shares that Mercedes is now grateful for those six COVID weeks with her Tata, describing them as a gift of presence and hugs. Then she sets up Tim Lopez's story, hinting at a stormy doubles tennis match and an unlikely friendship forged on court.
Tim Lopez lays out the scene carefully: four college friends, an empty stadium, the hallowed court where professionals play the Mercedes Benz Invitational.[1]— Tim Lopez"Tim Lopez and his college frenemy Evan couldn't agree on anything. They were garrulous, emotionally volatile, and each convinced the other …"26:34 Tim and Evan — both garrulous, emotionally volatile, convinced the other was the lesser intelligence — draw each other as partners. It goes predictably badly. They're blown out in the first two sets and down 5-0 in the third, screaming insults and cataloguing each other's failures as human beings. Then something shifts. Their opponents ease off; Tim and Evan claw back to 5-5. By the fourth set, they've stopped talking entirely, communicating instead through gestures and body language in what their friends later call the longest either of them had ever been silent. They win the fourth set. They win the fifth on a stunning backhand liner down the sideline. They run at each other, hug, perform a spontaneous choreographed-looking dance, and carry each other off the court. Within months they are inseparable. The reason, Tim concludes, is simple: 'the only thing we hated more than each other was losing.'
Chloe offers Tim Lopez's resume with affection: storyteller, Jeopardy champion, National Park Ranger, extremely amateur athlete. She notes that he has cooled his competitive fire with age, but is eyeing pickleball — which may reignite things — and that Evan remains one of his best friends, a potential future doubles partner. She then turns to the final story, telling listeners they're headed from a tennis court to Cameroon.
Jay Allison delivers the second mid-show production credit for The Moth Radio Hour, identifying Atlantic Public Media in Woods Hole, Massachusetts as producer. Chloe Salmon returns to introduce the final storyteller, Akwi Nji.
Akwi Nji opens with the starkest setup of the hour: her father died of cancer in the summer of 2021, and they hadn't spoken since she was a college sophomore — a silence of more than twenty years, born from a fight about whether she should be an attorney or an artist. She and her seven siblings scrambled for emergency visas and booked flights across multiple continents to Cameroon, where her father was a respected political voice.[1]— Akwi Nji"20+ years of silence with father: Akwi Nji and her father had not spoken to each other for more than twenty years by the time he died, afte…"35:54 While packing in Iowa, Akwi reaches for her brown Timberland boots — the ones that had carried her through Mexico, Sedona, Hawaii, all of life's rocky patches — and realizes with a start that she bought them the exact year her father and she stopped speaking. She had bought them because they looked like a pair he used to wear. She takes them. In Cameroon, she moves through her father's home like a detective: rooms filled with condolences and fried plantains and laughter; siblings playing karaoke to The Sound of Music; and one night, alone in her father's locked office, a wall titled 'The Glorious Past' — family photos, her parents' wedding, childhood portraits — and letters that confirm he loved her all along. She sits on the floor and cries and pours wine. Then comes the night of the caravan: the family must cross rebel-controlled territory to bury her father in Tugi, his birth village, so he can have eternal peace. Uncle Rambo — named for obvious reasons — warns of kidnapping, rape, and murder. The siblings are a high-profile target.[2]— Akwi Nji"To bury their father in Tugi — where Cameroonians believe you must be buried to achieve eternal peace — Akwi Nji's family had to cross rebe…"41:20 Akwi says no. She can't risk leaving her own children without a mother. Her siblings follow. In the rushed handoffs before the caravan departs, her Auntie Helen needs sturdier footwear. The boots fit. Akwi watches them leave. Lying awake afterward, she realizes: the boots she bought to feel close to her father were exactly the right thing to send with him to the end.
Chloe profiles Akwi Nji as an artist who led communications for Iowa public schools before turning to abstract painting full time at her studio. She shares that Akwi's favorite thing about her father was his smile — 'an amazing smile that truly made his eyes sparkle' — and directs listeners to themoth.org for photos. Then, fulfilling her opening promise, Chloe finally reveals her own theme contenders: 'reckonings' and 'self-image.'[1]— Chloe Salmon"Host's theme: reckonings and self-image: Host Chloe Salmon offered 'reckonings and self-image' as her own candidate themes uniting the five…"48:20 She invites listeners to confirm if they matched or to share their own theme via social media at @MothStories. Jay Allison delivers the full production credits, naming the production team, music credits (The Drift, Epidemic Sound, Blue Dot Sessions), and thanking Odyssey. The episode closes on the moth's invitation to pitch your own story at themoth.org.
frenemy
A person who is simultaneously a friend and a rival or enemy; Tim Lopez used the term to describe his college companion Evan, with whom he fought constantly but ultimately became best friends.
time-lapse photography
A technique in which frames are captured at intervals and then played back at normal speed to show slow processes rapidly; Harold Cox planned to use it to document his weight-loss progress.
StorySlam
A competitive live storytelling event hosted by The Moth where individuals tell personal true stories on a given theme and are judged by audience members.
garrulous
Excessively talkative, especially on trivial matters; Tim Lopez used it to describe both himself and Evan as a key reason they clashed.
kinesthetically
Relating to a sense of bodily movement or position; Tim Lopez used it to describe how he and Evan began communicating through gestures and body language rather than words during the tennis match.
fufu
A staple West and Central African dish made from boiled and pounded starchy foods such as cassava or yams; mentioned as part of the food brought to Akwi Nji's father's home in Cameroon.
groundnut soup
A rich, peanut-based stew common across West and Central Africa; one of the foods brought to comfort the Nji family during their bereavement in Cameroon.
Chin Chin
A popular West African crunchy fried snack made from dough; mentioned among the foods that filled Akwi Nji's father's home during mourning.
southpaw
A left-handed person, particularly in sports; Tim Lopez used it to describe his opponent Lance's tennis serve.
transatlantic relationship
A long-distance relationship maintained across the Atlantic Ocean; Akwi Nji used it to describe her efforts to stay connected with her father in Cameroon while growing up in the United States.
bonito es un pescabito
A Spanish wordplay phrase meaning 'bonito' (pretty) is also a type of fish ('bonito/pescabito'); Akwi's grandfather used it to deflect her compliments.
Tata
An informal term of address for grandfather in Spanish and several other languages; used throughout Mercedes Hesselroth's story to refer to her Peruvian grandfather.
abuela / La Mama
Spanish terms for grandmother; in Mercedes Hesselroth's story, her family called her grandmother 'La Mama.'
caravan
A group of people or vehicles traveling together, often for safety; Akwi Nji's family organized a caravan to transport mourners and their father's remains to the burial village of Tugi.
eternal peace (Cameroonian burial tradition)
The belief, described by Akwi Nji, that Cameroonians must be buried in the village where they were born in order to be connected to their ancestry and achieve eternal peace.
Chapter 2 · 01:04
Harold Cox: The Rotisserie of Shame
Harold Cox's plan was genius, in theory. He would photograph himself naked from four angles every morning — a rotisserie of self-documentation — to track his weight loss in glorious, spinning time-lapse. He endured horrible green smoothies with grapefruit peel and a stationary bike that, as he put it, 'goes nowhere fast.' Then came Chicago. A work presentation. An AV technician. A flash drive mix-up. Suddenly, Harold's nude progress photos — arms stretched, legs stretched — were cycling on a massive screen in front of a live audience. A woman walked in, screamed, and walked back out. Harold yanked every cable from the wall to stop what he now immortally calls 'the rotisserie of shame.'[1]— Harold Cox"Harold Cox's plan to document his weight loss with time-lapse nude photos seemed brilliant — until the AV guy accidentally projected them d…"01:04 He has never returned to Chicago. His closing insight — that freedom is letting go of your blunders — earns the best kind of laugh: the one that comes from recognition.
Harold Cox's plan to document his weight loss with time-lapse nude photos seemed brilliant — until the AV guy accidentally projected them during a live work presentation. A woman walked in, screamed, and Harold yanked every cable from the wall to stop what he now calls 'the rotisserie of shame.'
After fleeing Chicago and vowing never to return, Harold Cox found an unlikely life lesson in his most embarrassing moment. Freedom, he concluded, is what happens when you finally let go of your blunders.
Chloe briefly paints a portrait of Harold Cox: Texas-born professor, Massachusetts resident, connoisseur of 'simple and goofy' life events. She shares his LOL response to whether he's tried fitness photography again ('I will never ever do this again') and directs listeners to themoth.org for a fully clothed photo. She then checks in on the audience's theme-finding progress with two more stories promised: a granddaughter and her grandfather, and a heated tennis doubles match.
Harold Cox's naked weight-loss progress photos were accidentally projected at a Chicago work presentation, forcing him to yank every plug from the AV system.
Chapter 4 · 06:48
Di Cai: Last Chance at Stardom
Di Cai grew up performing for anyone who would watch — narrating weather reports to her family as a five-year-old, captivating nap-time audiences at daycare. By the time she was 21, she was weeks away from leaving China for a PhD program in Dallas, Texas, and convinced her performing days were over. Then she spotted competition posters. Tianjin TV — the fourth-largest network in China — was holding an English talent showcase. Di Cai applied, battled through Shakespeare readings, group debates, and sketch comedy, and made it to the 12-person final.[1]— Di Cai"Three months before leaving China for a biochemistry PhD, Di Cai entered a live English talent competition on Tianjin TV — her 'last chance…"06:52 When her improv topic came up — make a marriage proposal to a random audience member — she dropped to one knee, became Monica from Friends, and started crying. The audience member teared up and said yes. The crowd stood. She won. The producer offered her a hosting role on a new bilingual show, and Di Cai spent a summer eating meals in a van and learning that television is anything but glamorous. At summer's end, she turned down the full-time offer, flew to Dallas, and became Doctor D. 'I did not become the Oprah of China,' she says. 'But I did get people to call me doctor d for the rest of my life.'
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Tianjin, China has a population of 14 million people.
Di Caino source cited
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The Tianjin TV network is the fourth-largest television network in China.
Di Caino source cited
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Di Cai's English talent competition in Tianjin had hundreds of contestants, with 12 making the final which was broadcast live on TV.
Three months before leaving China for a biochemistry PhD, Di Cai entered a live English talent competition on Tianjin TV — her 'last chance at becoming a TV star.' When her improv topic was to propose marriage to a random audience member, she dropped to one knee, cried, and the audience member said yes. She won.
Di Cai won a live televised English talent contest by improvising an emotional marriage proposal to a random audience member, drawing a standing ovation.
After winning the competition, Tianjin TV offered Di Cai a full-time hosting role. The work was grinding — 5AM to 9PM, meals in the van, no glamour — but the people were warm and the experience eye-opening. She turned it down anyway. She couldn't let the PhD go to waste. She became Doctor D instead.
Mercedes Hesselroth describes herself as chronically shy, reserved, and possessed of a self-esteem so low that her mother gave her a bookmark at age seven with '10 ways to develop self-esteem.' She chased gold stars and external validation her whole life — the one exception being her grandfather, her Tata, who never needed her to prove anything. When her grandmother, La Mama, died unexpectedly in 2019 after 72 years of marriage,[1]— Mercedes Hesselroth"Tata married 72 years: Mercedes Hesselroth's grandparents had been together for 72 years before her grandmother's unexpected death in 2019."18:25 the family rallied. Her Tata, patriotic and proud, resisted coming to America but eventually relented. On March 12, 2020, Mercedes boarded a plane to celebrate his 90th birthday — and the world shut down around her. Her one-week trip became six weeks as primary caregiver and companion during COVID lockdown, whispering affirmations in her Tata's ear that he, like her, refused to believe. The crisis point comes when she fires back at his deflection — 'well, if you're a fish, I'm a cow' — only to have to repeat it louder and louder due to his failing hearing aids, feeling the self-insult sink deeper each time. Her mother's blunt response to her tearful phone call — 'well, now you know how I feel' — cracks the mirror open. She finally sees that the love she was fighting to give her grandfather was exactly the love others had always been fighting to give her.
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Mercedes Hesselroth's grandfather (Tata) and grandmother (La Mama) had been together for 72 years before La Mama's death in 2019.
Mercedes Hesselrothno source cited
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Mercedes Hesselroth boarded a plane to Texas on March 12, 2020, the same day New York City shut down for COVID-19.
Mercedes Hesselrothno source cited
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Mercedes Hesselroth's planned one-week visit for her grandfather's 90th birthday turned into a six-week stay due to COVID-19 travel restrictions.
Mercedes Hesselroth flew to Texas for her grandfather's 90th birthday and ended up trapped there for six weeks as the pandemic grounded all flights. As she administered his medication and whispered affirmations to a man who wouldn't believe them, she realized she had never believed them about herself either.
Mercedes Hesselroth was visiting Texas to celebrate her grandfather's 90th birthday when the COVID pandemic locked down New York City and extended her stay.
When Mercedes Hesselroth snapped back at her grandfather's self-deprecation with 'Well, if you're a fish, I'm a cow,' he couldn't hear her. So she had to say it louder. And louder. Each repetition drove the insult deeper. It was the first time her chronic inner self-abuse had come out of her mouth.
Mercedes Hesselroth realized the depth of her negative self-talk when she called herself a cow out loud to her hard-of-hearing grandfather, and had to repeat it louder each time.
Tim Lopez lays out the scene carefully: four college friends, an empty stadium, the hallowed court where professionals play the Mercedes Benz Invitational.[1]— Tim Lopez"Tim Lopez and his college frenemy Evan couldn't agree on anything. They were garrulous, emotionally volatile, and each convinced the other …"26:34 Tim and Evan — both garrulous, emotionally volatile, convinced the other was the lesser intelligence — draw each other as partners. It goes predictably badly. They're blown out in the first two sets and down 5-0 in the third, screaming insults and cataloguing each other's failures as human beings. Then something shifts. Their opponents ease off; Tim and Evan claw back to 5-5. By the fourth set, they've stopped talking entirely, communicating instead through gestures and body language in what their friends later call the longest either of them had ever been silent. They win the fourth set. They win the fifth on a stunning backhand liner down the sideline. They run at each other, hug, perform a spontaneous choreographed-looking dance, and carry each other off the court. Within months they are inseparable. The reason, Tim concludes, is simple: 'the only thing we hated more than each other was losing.'
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Tim Lopez and his friends played their amateur tennis match at UCLA's Arthur Ashe Tennis Center, where professional players compete annually in the Mercedes Benz Invitational.
Tim Lopez and his college frenemy Evan couldn't agree on anything. They were garrulous, emotionally volatile, and each convinced the other was the bigger idiot. But down 5-0 in the third set of a late-night doubles match at UCLA's Arthur Ashe Tennis Center, something shifted. Their stubbornness stopped pointing at each other and started pointing at the scoreboard.
Tim Lopez and his frenemy Evan staged a 5-set amateur doubles comeback at UCLA's Arthur Ashe Tennis Center, winning despite being down 5-0 in the third set.
In the middle of an epic five-set amateur tennis comeback, Tim Lopez and Evan stopped screaming insults at each other and started communicating through gestures and facial expressions alone. Their friends later said it was the longest either of them had ever gone without speaking. They won the match.
Jay Allison delivers the second mid-show production credit for The Moth Radio Hour, identifying Atlantic Public Media in Woods Hole, Massachusetts as producer. Chloe Salmon returns to introduce the final storyteller, Akwi Nji.
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Akwi Nji's father died unexpectedly of cancer in the summer of 2021.
Akwi Nji's father died of cancer in 2021 after more than 20 years of silence between them. She scrambled for emergency visas and flights to Cameroon with her seven siblings. Packing her bags, she found the hiking boots she'd bought the exact year they stopped speaking — because they looked like her dad's.
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Chapter 11 · 34:35
Akwi Nji: Boots for a Father
Akwi Nji opens with the starkest setup of the hour: her father died of cancer in the summer of 2021, and they hadn't spoken since she was a college sophomore — a silence of more than twenty years, born from a fight about whether she should be an attorney or an artist. She and her seven siblings scrambled for emergency visas and booked flights across multiple continents to Cameroon, where her father was a respected political voice.[1]— Akwi Nji"20+ years of silence with father: Akwi Nji and her father had not spoken to each other for more than twenty years by the time he died, afte…"35:54 While packing in Iowa, Akwi reaches for her brown Timberland boots — the ones that had carried her through Mexico, Sedona, Hawaii, all of life's rocky patches — and realizes with a start that she bought them the exact year her father and she stopped speaking. She had bought them because they looked like a pair he used to wear. She takes them. In Cameroon, she moves through her father's home like a detective: rooms filled with condolences and fried plantains and laughter; siblings playing karaoke to The Sound of Music; and one night, alone in her father's locked office, a wall titled 'The Glorious Past' — family photos, her parents' wedding, childhood portraits — and letters that confirm he loved her all along. She sits on the floor and cries and pours wine. Then comes the night of the caravan: the family must cross rebel-controlled territory to bury her father in Tugi, his birth village, so he can have eternal peace. Uncle Rambo — named for obvious reasons — warns of kidnapping, rape, and murder. The siblings are a high-profile target.[2]— Akwi Nji"To bury their father in Tugi — where Cameroonians believe you must be buried to achieve eternal peace — Akwi Nji's family had to cross rebe…"41:20 Akwi says no. She can't risk leaving her own children without a mother. Her siblings follow. In the rushed handoffs before the caravan departs, her Auntie Helen needs sturdier footwear. The boots fit. Akwi watches them leave. Lying awake afterward, she realizes: the boots she bought to feel close to her father were exactly the right thing to send with him to the end.
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Akwi Nji's parents met in Iowa in 1978 when both were attending school there.
Akwi Njino source cited
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Akwi Nji and her father had not spoken to each other for more than twenty years by the time he died, following a disagreement when she was a college sophomore.
Akwi Njino source cited
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In Cameroon, it is culturally important to be buried in the village where you were born, as this is seen as essential for eternal peace and connection to ancestry.
Akwi Njino source cited
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The rebel groups in parts of Cameroon were known not only to kidnap and hold people for ransom, but also to rape and murder.
Akwi Nji realized she had bought her beloved Timberland hiking boots the exact year she and her father stopped speaking, as a subconscious way to stay connected to him.
Alone in her father's office in Cameroon, Akwi Nji found a gallery of family photos — her parents' wedding, childhood portraits — that he had titled 'The Glorious Past.' She sat on the floor, poured wine, and wept. After twenty years of silence, the evidence of his love was all around her.
To bury their father in Tugi — where Cameroonians believe you must be buried to achieve eternal peace — Akwi Nji's family had to cross rebel-controlled territory. Uncle Rambo warned that as children of a high-profile man, the siblings were a lucrative target. Akwi said no. Her boots went instead.
Unable to make the dangerous journey herself, Akwi Nji gave her symbolic hiking boots to her aunt, who wore them through a mudslide to carry her father home to his burial village.
The caravan passed rebel groups, survived a mudslide, and arrived in Tugi to hundreds of dancing, singing villagers. In the video footage that came back, Akwi Nji could see Auntie Helen's feet — still wearing her boots. The shoes she bought to feel close to her father had carried him all the way home.
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Chapter 12 · 48:15
Closing: The Boots Arrive, the Theme Is Yours
Chloe profiles Akwi Nji as an artist who led communications for Iowa public schools before turning to abstract painting full time at her studio. She shares that Akwi's favorite thing about her father was his smile — 'an amazing smile that truly made his eyes sparkle' — and directs listeners to themoth.org for photos. Then, fulfilling her opening promise, Chloe finally reveals her own theme contenders: 'reckonings' and 'self-image.'[1]— Chloe Salmon"Host's theme: reckonings and self-image: Host Chloe Salmon offered 'reckonings and self-image' as her own candidate themes uniting the five…"48:20 She invites listeners to confirm if they matched or to share their own theme via social media at @MothStories. Jay Allison delivers the full production credits, naming the production team, music credits (The Drift, Epidemic Sound, Blue Dot Sessions), and thanking Odyssey. The episode closes on the moth's invitation to pitch your own story at themoth.org.
To bury their father in Tugi — where Cameroonians believe you must be buried to achieve eternal peace — Akwi Nji's family had to cross rebel-controlled territory. Uncle Rambo warned that as children of a high-profile man, the siblings were a lucrative target. Akwi said no. Her boots went instead.
Mercedes Hesselroth flew to Texas for her grandfather's 90th birthday and ended up trapped there for six weeks as the pandemic grounded all flights. As she administered his medication and whispered affirmations to a man who wouldn't believe them, she realized she had never believed them about herself either.
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Akwi Nji's father, a politically influential figure in Cameroon, whose death after 20+ years of estrangement from his daughter prompted the story.
The pandemic lockdown that turned Mercedes Hesselroth's one-week Texas visit into a six-week caregiving stint with her grandfather.
The nonprofit storytelling organization that produces The Moth Radio Hour and hosts live story events across the US.
Fourth-largest TV network in China that hosted the English talent competition Di Cai entered and won, subsequently offering her a hosting job.
Woods Hole, Massachusetts-based organization that co-produces The Moth Radio Hour with Jay Allison.
New York public radio station and media partner of The Moth, associated with Di Cai's and Tim Lopez's stories.
Nonprofit organization that uses storytelling to foster resilience and healing for people affected by trauma; partnered with The Moth for Mercedes Hesselroth's workshop.
Boston public radio station and media partner of The Moth, where Harold Cox's story was recorded.
Central African country where Akwi Nji's father was from, where his funeral and burial took place.
Small village in Cameroon where Akwi Nji's father was born and had to be buried according to Cameroonian tradition.
Coastal Chinese city of 14 million people where Di Cai attended college and entered the TV talent competition.
US state where Akwi Nji's parents met in 1978 and where Akwi Nji later worked in public school communications.
Prestigious tennis facility at UCLA where Tim Lopez and friends played their legendary late-night amateur doubles match.
Peruvian city where Mercedes Hesselroth's grandfather grew up and was known as 'the boy who laughs.'
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Tianjin, China has a population of 14 million people.
Di Caino source cited
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The Tianjin TV network is the fourth-largest television network in China.
Di Caino source cited
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Di Cai's English talent competition in Tianjin had hundreds of contestants, with 12 making the final which was broadcast live on TV.
Di Caino source cited
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Mercedes Hesselroth's grandfather (Tata) and grandmother (La Mama) had been together for 72 years before La Mama's death in 2019.
Mercedes Hesselrothno source cited
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Mercedes Hesselroth boarded a plane to Texas on March 12, 2020, the same day New York City shut down for COVID-19.
Mercedes Hesselrothno source cited
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Mercedes Hesselroth's planned one-week visit for her grandfather's 90th birthday turned into a six-week stay due to COVID-19 travel restrictions.
Mercedes Hesselrothno source cited
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Akwi Nji's father died unexpectedly of cancer in the summer of 2021.
Akwi Njino source cited
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Akwi Nji and her father had not spoken to each other for more than twenty years by the time he died, following a disagreement when she was a college sophomore.
Akwi Njino source cited
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Akwi Nji's parents met in Iowa in 1978 when both were attending school there.
Akwi Njino source cited
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In Cameroon, it is culturally important to be buried in the village where you were born, as this is seen as essential for eternal peace and connection to ancestry.
Akwi Njino source cited
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Tim Lopez and his friends played their amateur tennis match at UCLA's Arthur Ashe Tennis Center, where professional players compete annually in the Mercedes Benz Invitational.
Tim Lopezno source cited
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The rebel groups in parts of Cameroon were known not only to kidnap and hold people for ransom, but also to rape and murder.