Quote · On Purpose with Jay Shetty
CAMILA MENDES: "Perfectionism Was Ruining My Life"
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The Problem With One-Sided Love
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Camila and Jay dig into the complicated territory of loving publicly. As Brazilians, both she and Rudy are naturally physically demonstrative — their friends joke about how annoyingly affectionate they are. But her industry demands some restraint. The solution Jay offers is elegant: don't dim your public warmth; just make your private life even richer. [1] — Jay Shetty "Your public life should be good, but your private life should be better." 1:06:26 You always keep the best parts for each other. Camila then opens up about something more difficult: there was a period in her relationship with Rudy where she felt like she was doing most of the emotional work. She had done nearly a decade of therapy and had just completed Hoffman; he hadn't yet started therapy at all. The post-Hoffman clarity threw their dynamic into sharper relief — she had changed, and the gap was visible. When Rudy finally started individual therapy (after Camila had been recommending it for a long time), the relationship problems began to dissolve. Meeting halfway, she says, made everything click.
Camila had done nearly a decade of therapy before Rudy started. When he finally did, problems that had lingered for years started dissolving. After Rudy completed Hoffman, they began speaking the same emotional language — and now they meditate together. The couple that does the work together, stays together.
Rudy Mancuso went from never having done therapy two years ago to completing the Hoffman Institute program, which Camila says transformed their relationship communication.
Rudy and Camila's best friend conspired to disguise the proposal as a friend's birthday dinner, complete with a fake Sex and the City dress code. Camila walked into what she thought was a stunning restaurant — until she heard the engagement song from La La Land and realised her friends had stopped walking.
