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578 - Getting Back Together with an Ex: Great Idea or Terrible Idea?
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Personal Stories: Have You Ever Gone Back?
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With the question 'Have you ever gotten back together with an ex?' the hosts turn the lens on themselves. Jace describes his experiences as more of a drift than a formal reconciliation — reconnecting with someone romantically but never quite re-entering a full relationship, always ending in a gentle drift apart. Emily recalls a high-school boyfriend she got back together with in college. Dedeker, meanwhile, deflects with a meme about God sending an ex back to check whether you're still stupid — before admitting she returned to the same person multiple times without specifying how many. Jace's mother's story proves the episode's most surprising data point: she has twice reconnected with high school sweethearts, one time 15–20 years later and another 40 years on, both after intervening marriages. Emily reveals she is the outlier — when a relationship ends for her, it stays ended — while acknowledging she has pined.
Jace's mother got back together with two different high school partners — one about 15–20 years later, one about 40 years later — illustrating how early-life relationships can resurface decades on.
