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Five Predictions Kierkegaard Got Right About Modern Life
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Kierkegaard had no Twitter, no Netflix, and no iPhone — but five of his central predictions have been empirically validated. First: more reflection without commitment produces paralysis, not wisdom. Barry Schwartz's paradox-of-choice research confirms it — maximizers achieve more but are less happy. [1] — Drew Birnie "50% of U.S. adults report being lonely: The U.S. Surgeon General's 2023 report on loneliness found that half of American adults report feel…" 1:33:00 Second: the benefits of optionality are largely an illusion; we see the upside of each extra option but not the emotional cost of having to eventually choose among them. Dan Ariely's door experiment makes this viscerally concrete. Third: in a life of endless abundance, everything becomes equally interesting and equally boring — the diminishing returns of novelty that Mark experienced personally as a nomad. Fourth: the most free and wealthy generation would be the most anxious, lonely, and dissatisfied — the Easterlin Paradox, the Surgeon General's 2023 loneliness report, and 24 extra monthly hours spent alone (2003–2020) all confirm it. Fifth: without commitment, you never form a self — purpose and meaning require struggle and sacrifice, not five-day spa retreats.
Barry Schwartz's research found that maximizers — people who try to optimize every decision — tend to achieve objectively better outcomes but report lower happiness than satisficers who choose 'good enough.'
In Dan Ariely's door experiment, participants sacrificed the highest-reward door — repeatedly — just to avoid seeing other doors disappear. Even when researchers trained them to use the best door, they kept wasting clicks to maintain options. This is the bias that runs our lives: we'll take a worse outcome to preserve the feeling of optionality.
The Easterlin Paradox shows that wealthier nations — and the wealthiest neighborhoods within them — tend to have the highest rates of anxiety, depression, loneliness, and suicide.
The U.S. Surgeon General's 2023 report on loneliness found that half of American adults report feeling lonely, marking a widespread epidemic of social isolation.
Between 2003 and 2020, Americans accumulated roughly 24 extra hours per month spent alone — the equivalent of a part-time job's worth of isolation, and that's before the pandemic.
Every meaningful commitment has a dip — an initial peak of excitement, a brutal trough of difficulty, and a second higher peak for those who push through. Institutions once kept people in the dip long enough to reach the other side. With infinite optionality and no institutions, everyone bails at the bottom and restarts the cycle of shallow first peaks.
