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Dr Rachel Rubin: Women’s Sexual Health, Menopause, Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT), and Orgasms!
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Education + biology + communication is the trifecta. Steven reflects on past relationships destroyed by misunderstood sexual dysfunction. Dr Rubin frames conflict as something to tackle as a team, not a blame game. [1] — Dr Rachel Rubin "Dr Rubin's core thesis: women's sexual dysfunction starts with biology, gets compounded by medical ignorance, and is then buried under comm…" 1:35:06
Science shows the average duration before male orgasm during penetrative sex is about 5.5 minutes — yet women typically need over 13–15 minutes of clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
When you asked someone on a date, you were scheduling potential sex. In long-term relationships, the stage-setting disappears but the need doesn't. Dr Rubin recommends quarterly 'partner days' — a full day blocked off on the calendar — as a minimum investment in erotic connection. Spontaneous vacation sex isn't magic; it's the product of unscheduled time.
Dr Rubin's core thesis: women's sexual dysfunction starts with biology, gets compounded by medical ignorance, and is then buried under communication failure. When all three are addressed — proper hormonal care, partner education in biology, and open conversation — the outcomes are transformative. Most couples never have the conversation because they don't have the words.
