Snapshot · The Mel Robbins Podcast
Quietly quitting — crossing your arms, withdrawing, and waiting for things to get better — is the opposite of what is needed when you're in a new chapter.
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Mel reframes a concept usually applied to the workplace — 'quietly quitting' — as something people do to every chapter of life [1] — Mel Robbins "Crossing your arms, staying in your dorm on Friday nights, telling yourself everyone sucks — that's quietly quitting your own chapter. Oakl…" 28:31 . Oakley's version was textbook: staying in his dorm on Friday and Saturday nights, dreading the weekends, trying a club or party once and retreating the moment it felt awkward, telling himself the experiment had failed. Mel did the same in Vermont — spending time with her equally-miserable friends Amy and Jesse, watching old friends on social media as if she were watching them sail away on a party barge. Both were choosing to be right about the situation being wrong rather than trying to make it work. The advice that emerges is twofold: you have to give a new chapter at least a year before judging it, and during that year you need to be a 'yes' — expansive, uncrossed, open. Oakley's turning point came in January when he stopped waiting and started acting.
Crossing your arms, staying in your dorm on Friday nights, telling yourself everyone sucks — that's quietly quitting your own chapter. Oakley did it for 18 months. The antidote isn't waiting for things to click; it's saying yes to everything for a full year and checking your energy daily.
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