Lopez's twins both won college scholarships
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Endless Possibility: Twins Leaving for College and the Next Chapter
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Jason's question is genuinely open: when you can do literally anything — direct, record, open a bank, start a cupcake store — how do you choose? Lopez's answer is rooted in a life transition: her twins are both 18 and leaving for college in a few months, and for the first time she has to sit with what her life looks like without them at the center of it. For the first time in her career, she says, she's realized she does have power and agency, and she wants to be intentional about the next four or five years rather than just saying yes to everything. She also teases J-Dough — her secret chocolate cookie recipe that she's convinced is the best in the world and one day plans to release. She's moved into a new house, bought horses for the kids (hoping it'll keep them coming home), and describes the past two years as a healing process from a turbulent five.
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