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Rhaina Cohen herself lives not only with her husband but also two of her closest friends, and is planning with about a half dozen friends to buy property together to raise children communally.
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The talk's credibility is cinched when Cohen reveals she isn't just describing a possible future — she's already living a version of it. She shares her home with her husband and two close friends; one was recruited in a kind of courtship process, the other came when a job brought her to the city. Now she and roughly six friends are scheming to buy property together, a communal home they've titled 'The Village,' where they plan to raise children alongside one another. [1] — Rhaina Cohen "Rhaina Cohen doesn't just argue for friendship-as-life-anchor — she lives it. She shares her home with her husband and two close friends, a…" 10:30 She acknowledges she doesn't know if it will work out. But the vulnerability of that admission makes the aspiration feel honest rather than utopian: this is what it looks like to take friendship seriously enough to actually build around it.
We don't have to choose between romance and friendship — we just have to stop ranking them. Rhaina Cohen closes with a vision where no one calls out in loneliness unanswered, because we've given ourselves permission to build lives around spouses, siblings, or houses full of friends.
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