Married at Burning Man, age 19
Olivia Wilde eloped at Burning Man at 19 years old, with the actual paperwork signed back in LA — she says she immediately thought 'what the fuck did I just do?'
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Olivia Wilde: Dating, Double Standards & Dealing with Scrutiny
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Jun 17, 2026
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Burning Man Wedding at 19 and a 23-Year Year Off
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Cooper opens this chapter with one of the episode's most delightful reveals: Wilde eloped at Burning Man at 19, with a paperwork ceremony completed by someone found on the internet whose signature may be legally invalid. She was on a school bus in Venice when she landed on The OC. The marriage lasted roughly six to seven years, ending around age 25 — not tumultuous, just an organic growing apart. She describes being a 25-year-old divorcée as 'a really funny' situation. The rebellion, she notes with irony, was to do the most traditional thing she could think of — and then not have a traditional marriage at all [1] — Olivia Wilde "Olivia Wilde eloped at Burning Man at 19, had the paperwork signed by someone found on the internet, and was immediately asking herself 'wh…" 25:20 .
Burning Man Wedding at 19: Wilde's Most Impulsive Decision
Olivia Wilde eloped at Burning Man at 19, had the paperwork signed by someone found on the internet, and was immediately asking herself 'what the fuck did I just do?' She then spent her early 20s living on a school bus in Venice before landing on The OC — and still considers the spontaneous marriage classic Olivia Wilde.
Marriage lasted ~6-7 years
Olivia Wilde's only marriage lasted roughly 6-7 years, ending when she was about 25, making her a self-described '25-year-old divorcée.'
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