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Setting Boundaries & the A-Rod Documentary

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Bert traces his new assertiveness to sobriety revealing a pattern he hadn't seen before: when he was drinking, people treated him as someone who could be placated with a 12-pack and would just go along. Sober, he notices that energy still permeates and he's done tolerating it. ^{[1] — Bert Kreischer "Sobriety didn't make Bert kinder — it made him meaner. He's started refusing unreasonable work requests flat-out, leaving events when he wa…" 26:05 Play} He gives a concrete example: on the day of his final arena show of a tour, someone emailed asking him to come into the office for a 30-minute camera test. Old Bert would have gone. New Bert said no, was told 'you don't understand,' and replied 'I do understand, and I'm telling you no.' Tom observes that Bert attended the Bad Thoughts screening and left after greeting people, which Bert loved — it's a behavior he's always admired in Tom but never felt he could replicate as a people-pleaser. Tom makes the key distinction: setting boundaries and saying no is not the same as being nasty, and Bert should stop conflating the two. He's simply developing standards.