Average date costs $168
Survey data shows the average date now costs $168, with Gen Z spending closer to $200 despite having less money.
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Dating, Solved: Why Finding the Right Person Feels So Hard
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Feb 4, 2026
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The Modern Dating Crisis: Statistics and Structural Causes
At 1:47:46 · chapter starts 1:00:48
Drew takes the wheel for a data-heavy segment that makes the scale of the problem visceral. 42% of US adults are currently unpartnered — an all-time high. [1] — Drew "42% of US adults unpartnered: 42% of US adults are currently unpartnered, an all-time high, reflecting what researchers call a 'romantic re…" 1:44:09 Weekly sexual activity has fallen from 55% of adults in 1990 to 37% in 2024. 31% of men aged 18-24 report zero sexual activity in the past year, more than double the rate from the early 2000s. 25% of Americans reach 40 having never married. The average date costs $168, with Gen Z spending closer to $200 despite having less money. 71% of Democrats say they'd reject a Trump supporter as a date; 47% of Republicans say the same about Biden/Clinton voters. The causes are structural: dating apps designed to keep users addicted rather than matched, the erosion of third places, a culture of ghosting and breadcrumbing, and the 4B movement in South Korea where women are forgoing dating entirely. But Drew is cautiously optimistic: run clubs explicitly for singles, curated age-gated social events, and app innovations like Thursday (messaging only on Thursdays) suggest people are experimenting with solutions.
Life expectancy in 1840 was 35
Life expectancy in 1840 was only about 35 years, meaning the modern expectation of a lifelong romantic partnership is a very recent invention.
42% of US adults unpartnered
42% of US adults are currently unpartnered, an all-time high, reflecting what researchers call a 'romantic recession.'
The Modern Dating Crisis in Numbers
42% of US adults are unpartnered — an all-time high. Weekly sex has fallen from 55% of adults in 1990 to 37% in 2024. And 31% of men aged 18-24 report zero sexual activity in the past year, more than double the rate from the early 2000s. This isn't a vibe — it's a measurable collapse in romantic connection.
25% of Americans reach 40 never married
25% of Americans now reach age 40 having never been married — an all-time high, up 5 percentage points in less than 10 years.
Weekly sex down from 55% to 37%
Weekly sexual activity among US adults dropped from 55% in 1990 to 37% in 2024, a dramatic decline across all age groups.
Young male sexlessness doubled
About 31% of men aged 18-24 reported zero sexual activity in the past year as of 2024, more than double the ~15-16% recorded in the early 2000s.
Burnout from dating: saving ~$4,000/year by quitting
Some people have calculated they save approximately $4,000 a year by opting out of dating entirely, given that the average annual spend on dating exceeds $2,000.
71% of Democrats reject Trump supporters
71% of Democrats say they would reject a Trump supporter as a potential date, versus 47% of Republicans who would reject a Biden/Clinton voter.
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